What to expect

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Each parent approaches their child’s illness and death differently. Maybe you have tried to ‘prepare’ yourself, or maybe you have focused on hoping for a positive outcome. Whatever the circumstances, the death of your child will be a shock.

People can experience a wide range of emotions quickly or none at all to start with. Some people are surprised by their physical response to the loss. When a child dies it is the whole family who experience it, and as a parent you may have responsibilities to care for others at this time. No family is the same and people will experience different challenges depending on their own circumstances.

Some things that you may need to think about are:

  • Practical arrangements - registering the death, arranging where you child is before the funeral, and the funeral itself. Link to funeral page
  • Telling people, family members, siblings and friends - do you feel able to do this? What do you want to say? Link to sibling page
  • Looking after your own health - eating, sleeping and allowing time and space to yourself. Link to useful links
  • Other peoples reactions - everyone has their own experience of loss. Friends, colleagues and even family members may not react how you expect them to, and this can be hard to manage. Seeking support from someone outside can be really helpful at this time.

​“When Yuto was here, we had very kind support from Rainbow Trust. Now, even thought Yuto is no longer with us, we still feel uplifted. Big thank you Rainbow Trust, we are okay because you were there.”

Bereaved mother

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